Emotional Attacks

Emotional Attacks You cannot control other people's emotions, but you can control your own. Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It's important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their behavior isn't as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions. If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone's behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn't do anything wrong, and you aren't responsible for people's feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you -- whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard -- you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them. You cannot control other people's emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Speak with Purpose, Not Impulse]( by DailyOM Words are incredibly powerful. The things you say influence perceptions, alter opinions, and change connections with others, in both positive and negative ways. This enlightening 7-day course provides insightful strategies and transformative techniques for listening and speaking mindfully, so that what you convey is a true reflection of you and your intentions. You'll learn simple, practical approaches that can be immediately implemented to open and expand your consciousness, help you become more self-aware, and give you the skills to achieve the outcomes you desire in all conversations. This course will give you the tools and knowledge you need to be less reactive and impulsive, so that you can build meaningful and productive relationships with every person in your life. [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [4 Minutes for Back Pain]( 2. [Dealing With Emotionally Unavailable Partners]( 3. [A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self]( 4. [Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days]( 5. [Heal Your Soul by Letting Go of Emotional Addiction]( 6. [Strengthening Your Pelvic Floor]( 7. [The 2 Week Fascia Miracle]( 8. [21 Tapping Meditations for Emotional Eating and Beyond]( 9. [Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility]( 10. [The Swimsuit Transformation]( New Courses • [7 Day Beginner Yoga Challenge]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2019 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]