Spoiling Our Children

Spoiling Our Children Spoiling our children with new things stems from our feeling of lack in our own childhood. One of the greatest things about children is that they have the ability to entertain themselves for long periods of time with something as simple as a cardboard box, a container, or a set of measuring spoons. It makes you wonder why we feel the need to buy them so many toys that they won't even have time to play with them all before they grow out of them. Often, if we take the time to question our compulsion to constantly give our children new toys and clothes, and to spoil them with food that is not even good for them, we will find that we are trying to fill up the space to avoid our own difficult feelings and pain. If you feel yourself wanting to spoil your child with material possessions, take a moment and see if you can feel where your motivation is coming from. We may be inundating our children with things they don't need out of our own desire to create a feeling of abundance that was lacking in our own childhood, or out of a need to feel liked by our children. Both of these motives tend to be unconscious, stemming from unresolved issues from our own upbringing or even our adult life. These unresolved feelings naturally come up when we find ourselves in the role of a parent, often as our child reaches the age we were when these traumas were most pronounced. Spoiling your children will not save you or make your pain disappear, only acknowledging and working on your emotional issues can do that. What our children really need us to provide for them is both a sense of safety and a sense of freedom and love of which there can never be too much. If we are able to do this well, material possessions need not take center stage. We all want to provide our children with a good and happy life, but most of us know deep down that material possessions play a very small role. We confuse our children when we seek to make them happy through buying them things. When we do this, they take our cue that happiness comes in the form of toys and treats, rather than in the joy of being alive, surrounded by love, and free to explore the world. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Hold Your Own During Control Dramas]( by Dr. Jody Janati The key to living a drama-free life is being able to identify controlling behaviors and having the skills to navigate them with grace. In this insightful course, communications consultant Dr. Jody Janati provides expert guidance on how to negate control dramas using proven solutions. With detailed audio recordings and simple real-life tips, you'll learn to respond to others and protect your energy in moments of stress and conflict. Highly effective communication techniques will also help you set and maintain healthy boundaries for any future interactions. By the end, you'll be able to preserve your sense of peace while also managing conflict like a pro. [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [Strengthening Your Pelvic Floor]( 2. [Hold Your Own During Control Dramas]( 3. [Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days]( 4. [21 Day Tabata Yoga Body Challenge]( 5. [What Women Need to Know About Men]( 6. [The 2 Week Fascia Miracle]( 7. [A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self]( 8. [4 Minute Metabolism Booster]( 9. [14 Day Pilates Body]( 10. [Re-Parent Your Inner Child]( New Courses • [Letting Go of a Bad Relationship]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2019 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]