Being Happy For Others

Being Happy For Others Celebrating the happiness of others requires a generosity of spirit that we often find only in the process. We all want to be the kind of people who are happy for others when they experience success or a cause for celebration in their lives, but it isn't always easy. Sometimes powerful, dark feelings come up at times when decorum dictates we should be feeling the opposite. Instead of reaching out and celebrating our loved one, we may feel the rising up of our own pain. This pain may arise because we feel jealous of our friend for having something we don't. It may arise because our friend's success will lead to us losing them in some way. And it may arise for reasons we don't yet understand. The important thing is not to brush it under the rug, but to take it seriously and look at it; suppressing it will only make it worse. At the same time, we need to be sure to find a way to congratulate our friends and celebrate their successes as if they were our own. The struggle with being happy for others presents itself early in life. If a child wants a toy and another child has it, the child will try to get it or will break down in tears. Those primal feelings are still present in most of us, and we have to acknowledge them when they arise. At the same time, it is when we care enough for someone to let go of what we want for ourselves that we grow as people. It can be a difficult dance to find ourselves suspended between wanting the toy and throwing a party for our friend who got the toy. Yet, it is in throwing the party that we share in the joy--and, to some extent, the toy--rather than cutting ourselves out of it. Extending ourselves to celebrate the happiness of others requires a generosity of spirit that we sometimes find only in the process of doing it. So when your best friend moves to Spain with the person you had a crush on, tend to your broken heart but throw them a going away party too. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Re-Parent Your Inner Child]( by Lisa J. Smith Do you sometimes feel that you make the same poor choices again and again? Have you ever felt like you have no control over your life? It could be because your inner child is in the driver's seat, which similar to any actual child, should not be driving a car, let alone your life. In this course, you will learn how your inner child may be sabotaging you and develop skills that will bridge your adult with your inner child. In building this connection, you will start to become more balanced and bring out the best in both. By the end of this course, you will start to live a life filled with joy, laughter, fun, success, and healthy relationships. [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [Stretch and Strengthen Your Lower Back]( 2. [If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?]( 3. [The 9 Minute Science-Based Workout]( 4. [No Sit-Up Abs Workout]( 5. [Shakti Warrior Dance for Healing]( 6. [Pelvis Reset for Lower Back Pain]( 7. [Sleep Fix For Longevity]( 8. [20 Minute Booty Builder]( 9. [What Women Need to Know About Men]( 10. [From Codependent to Independent]( New Courses • [Move Your Core, Change Your Life]( • [Change Your Life with Tea]( • [10 Day Booty Core]( • [10 Days of Vegan Living]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2019 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]