7 Weeks to Self-Love

7 Weeks to Self-Love by [Madisyn Taylor]( An inability to practice self-love is a behavior that can be unlearned Dear Friends, I really enjoy sharing these interviews with our course authors highlighting the amazing work they teach in their DailyOM courses. Their work helps us all to become better versions of ourselves. I recently spoke with Chris Armstrong, a certified relationship facilitator and emotional intelligence facilitator. He brings his expertise to his course, 7 Weeks to Self-Love. Course OverviewYou want and deserve a happy, equal, and authentic relationship. This is no secret. Attaining one can feel difficult, and is most definitely a personal journey. This course will help you get there with authentic, realistic and actionable information, tips, and advice. This is not a course about the secret ingredients to making someone love you, nor does it tell you how to find love in 48 days. It is absolutely worth your time, however. You see, love is patient and requires that you love yourself fully, which then strengthens your relationships with others. We are going to talk about this through a reflective and introspective lens. This 7 week course will take you on a journey of self-discovery that puts who you are and what you need in perspective. You will receive thought-provoking, action-oriented guidance and techniques for fully exploring and ultimately learning to love yourself, learning to love your needs, learning to teach people how to treat you, and learning to balance the head and the heart. Then and only then will you be able to have that equal and authentic relationship that you truly deserve. - Receive a new lesson every 4 days for 52 days (total of 13 lessons). - Have lifetime access to the course for reference whenever you want. - Select the amount you can afford, and get the same course as everyone. - If you are not 100% satisfied, you may request a refund. How much do you want to pay? [$15]( This is the total amount for all 13 lessons Interview With Chris Armstrong Madisyn Taylor: Tell me about some signs that people can look for to indicate that they're not in self-love. Chris Armstrong: One sign would be that they continuously question their value. What I mean by this is when they're talking with friends, when they're on dates, or even if they're in a relationship, do they find themselves asking, "Am I worth this?" and "What am I here for?" "Why does that person want me?" If you do this consistently, no matter how many people give you positive feedback, then you have a self-love issue. I would say another sign would be when you tolerate more than you should in a relationship. I use this phrase, "You teach people how to treat you," by virtue of what you expect and what you accept. So if you expect an honest and faithful partner and they cheat on you and you accept that, then you probably have a self-love issue. There's a reason why we accept less from people than what we inherently know we deserve. MT: How does this evolve in a person's life? Is this lack of self-love something that stems from childhood, or does it come from a bad relationship in early adulthood perhaps? How does this person who is not accepting self-love evolve into that place in their life? CA: I think there are a few things that get us there. One is the way we compare ourselves to others. For example, if I look at other people and I see that they have a job they're satisfied with or they have no problem walking into a room and just being effervescent, I may compare myself to that person. As long as we're looking to other people for our self-worth -- comparing ourselves to others in a negative way -- we're always going to have self-love issues. Another place a lack of self-worth can come from is when we believe the judgments of others. In most cases, people's opinions are nothing more than them giving us feedback, hopefully in a constructive way. We don't know what to do with that feedback so our default position is going to be that we take it in and assume it's 100 percent true and a criticism. Then all of a sudden we're spiraling down into a lack of self-love. Lastly, a quest for perfection, which I always find interesting and troubling because we don't expect other people to be perfect, can bring us to a place where we don't have self-love. MT: It sounds almost like not practicing self-love is a behavior in itself. We go through all these self-doubting, self-sabotaging behaviors, but in reality behaviors can be unlearned. CA: An inability to practice self-love is a behavior that can be unlearned if we think about it. If someone judges me, even if they're just giving feedback and doing so from a loving place, I automatically go into the self-doubt place. I'm automatically frustrated and then I look around and I see other people who are doing that very thing that I was just criticized for not doing. So not only did someone tell me that I don't have a particular quality, but I look around and see other people who do have it. That's what we call confirmation bias. I just confirmed that must be true. Then if I compare that version of myself to the person I really want to be, I automatically give myself a third strike, and not loving one's self just becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. MT: As humans we're so hard on ourselves. What can people expect to learn in your course, and what is your teaching style? CA: I'm a certified facilitator by trade and I say that because when I teach -- whether in a classroom or a course like this -- it's very much a facilitated style. So instead of just telling people, "Here's a list of things you have to do," I want the course to be self-reflective so that as they're working it they can see themselves in the course. This is why there are lots of examples and third-person references. I think the important thing to do when you're teaching anything, and especially something like confidence, is to help people understand the why before they understand the how. For example, say someone wants to find out how to gain self-confidence. I want to help people realize why they are in a lack of confidence in the first place and really help them understand how to put themselves in a "mirror state," which is referenced in the online course. So it's important to me that people know the why before the how, so they can really understand where confidence comes from and what are some of my own thoughts about confidence. MT: Is the why achieved through the homework you give in the course? CA: Yes, it's homework that has no right or wrong answers because we are all individuals. The homework is very self-reflective and allows the reader to personally see how they got into the state they are in. It's about perspective and self-exploration. MT: That leads to my next question -- what feedback have you received from people and how has this work changed their lives? CA: People comment that I'm candid and respectful and that the material is easy to follow because it spoke to them. People also say that they like the flow from what is self-worth and how did we get out of self-worth to how do we find it again. MT: What does a person look like when they fully embrace self-love? What does that person look like out in the world? CA: The first thing is that they don't think twice about putting themselves out there. They walk into a room and know they belong in that room. The second thing is that they teach people how to treat them because once you love yourself enough to realize what you're worth, you won't accept less from people. You will say, "I expect faithfulness and respect." The third thing is that if they are in a situation where they are being judged, they look at the experience from a different lens. A confident person will be judged by somebody and not automatically assume ill intent. They put it all into perspective and think, "I have compassion for you, I know exactly why you feel the need to judge me that way." It's very different from the old feelings of "I'm not worth it." How Does It Work? Starting today, you will receive a new lesson every 4 days for 52 days (total of 13 lessons). Each lesson is yours to keep and you'll be able to refer back to it whenever you want. And if you miss a lesson or are too busy to get to it that day, each lesson will conveniently remain in your account so you won't have to search for it when you're ready to get back to it. Free Gift As a free gift, when you sign up for this course, you will also receive the award-winning DailyOM inspiration newsletter which gives you daily inspirational thoughts for a happy, healthy and fulfilling day. We will also let you know about other courses and offers from DailyOM and Chris Armstrong that we think you might be interested in. Get Started Now We are offering this course with the option of selecting how much you want to pay. No matter how much you pay, you'll be getting the same course as everybody else. We simply trust that people are honest and will support the author of the course with whatever they can afford. And if you are not 100% satisfied, we will refund your money. How much do you want to pay? [$15]( This is the total amount for all 13 lessons Thanks to Chris for taking the time to chat with me. Imagine what the world would look like if we all just loved ourselves a little more and walked the earth in our full glory. Until next time. Be well, Madisyn Taylor Cofounder, Editor-in-Chief DailyOM For more information visit: > [7 Weeks to Self-Love]( [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Be Abtastic in 7 Days]( by Sarah Rector A strong core isn't just the ultimate accessory for the beach -- it mobilizes and balances your upper and lower body, protects your spine, and creates a stable foundation for every activity you do. With this course, you'll be guided through a series of seven 15-minute ab workouts that are suitable for any fitness level. 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