Being Projected Upon

Being Projected Upon by [Madisyn Taylor]( The decision to marry should not be based solely on having the feeling of love in your heart. We all have issues, as well as undesirable qualities or traits that we don't like about ourselves. Most of us realize that we are not perfect and that it is natural to have unpleasant thoughts, motivations, desires, or feelings. However, when a person does not acknowledge these, they may ascribe those characteristics to someone else, deeming other people instead as angry, jealous, or insecure. In psychological terms, such blaming and fault finding is called projection. When we are the target of projections, it can be confusing and frustrating, not to mention maddening, particularly when we know that we are not the cause of another person's distress. Even people who are well aware of their issues may find that sensitive subjects can bring up unexpected projections. They may feel insecure about a lack of funds and thus view a friend as extravagant. Or, if they really want to get in shape, they may preach the benefits of exercise to anyone and everyone. While we can try to avoid people we know who engage in projecting their "stuff" onto others, we can't always steer clear of such encounters. We can, however, deflect some projections through mindfulness and meditation. A useful visualization tool is to imagine wrapping ourselves in a protective light everyday. At other times, we may have to put up a protective shield when we feel a projection coming our way, reminding ourselves that someone else's issues are not ours. Although it's difficult not to react when we are the recipient of a projection, it is a good idea to try to remain calm and let the other person know if they are being unreasonable and disrespectful. We all know that it's not fun to be dumped on. Likewise, we should be mindful that we don't take our own frustrations out on others. When we take ownership of our thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings, we are less likely to project our issues or disowned qualities onto others. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Unhinge Your Hips and Hamstrings]( by Sarah Rector When was the last time you did a focused stretching session for your hip flexors and hamstrings? Never, maybe? The thing is, if you're someone who sits for 4 or more hours a day, the prolonged sitting is actually causing your hip flexors to tighten up--which can lead to lower back problems and ongoing pain. And, did you know that when your hamstrings are too tight, your muscles rotate your pelvis backward? The truth is, most people overlook the importance of stretching their hips and hamstrings regularly. And while it isn't necessary to fit in a full workout each week that only targets those areas, it's super easy and highly beneficial to add in a few exercises that strengthen these often neglected and underrated muscles. Especially when you consider all the added benefits--including decreasing stress, reducing pain and stiffness, and improving your circulation and range of motion. With this brand new course from fitness expert, Sarah Rector, you'll get all the simple hip and hamstrings stretching solutions you need in 7 days--in less than fifteen minutes a day! [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days]( 2. [Unhinge Your Hips and Hamstrings]( 3. [Release Yourself from Family Karma]( 4. [Live A Sweet Life Without Sugar]( 5. [Chakra Dance to Change Your Life]( 6. [21 Day Tabata Yoga Body Challenge]( 7. [Fit and Fierce Over 40]( 8. [What Women Need to Know About Men]( 9. [Overcoming Self-Sabotage]( 10. [The 9 Minute Science-Based Workout]( New Courses • [Live A Sweet Life Without Sugar]( • [How and When to Leave a Relationship]( • [Rise + Shine, Flow + Align]( • [The Ultimate Burnout Cure]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2019 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]