Imposing Your Will Upon Others

Imposing Your Will Upon Others by [Madisyn Taylor]( When we impose our will onto others, we are telling them we want to control and leave them without a true voice. The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply critical of themselves in their own minds, and underlying that critical nature is unhappiness. Their need to feel sure-footed and secure is quenched by controlling those around them, whether they are friends, colleagues, or even pets. However, nearly everyone has found themselves imposing their will upon others at one time or another. Trying to impose your will on others can be tempting for many reasons. You may feel that your way is the best way or that you have a keener insight into the direction their life should be taking. But, in imposing your will, you are indirectly saying, "I want to control you." Thus, even when you have the best of intentions, others may end up resenting you for your actions. It is always helpful to remember that it is possible to influence people and change their behavior through education or example without imposing your will on them. If you've caught yourself being a bit bossy on a regular basis, make a note of it. Write down what the situation was and why you acted the way you did. You may have pushed a friend to try something new, because deep inside you wanted to try it yourself but were feeling hesitant. Or you may be unjustly interfering with work teammates because you aren't sure of their abilities. Next, make an effort to understand and accept their preferences and ways of doing things. It can feel natural to impose your will when you feel that you "know best." But there is a freedom to trusting others to find their own methods and joys, even when they might differ from yours. Sometimes the best course of action is to step back and relinquish control. You may, in doing so, see everything from a different point of view. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Intimacy Without Responsibility]( by Wendyne Limber Do you find it difficult to speak your truth to the one you love? Do you often censor your true feelings so you do not hurt someone else? When in the presence of others we sometimes find it hard to be authentic, and end up hiding our joy, pain, truth, or love. It can be challenging to be in relationships with others and stay true to ourselves, rather than being enmeshed with, or feeling abandoned by, the other. We may find it hard to let go of wanting to save or fix another and just take care of our own selves. Having intimacy without responsibility for others is about practicing the art and skill of freedom within the relationship, and moving toward more love and self-care. When we truly heal and take care of our own issues, we are able to love more deeply. You can discover and live your passions, mission and purpose and become committed to your own wholeness and still deeply love someone else. It is possible to speak your truth, have a voice, and re-program conscious and unconscious beliefs that say you are responsible for another person's feelings or happiness. Through daily teachings, mind intervention practice videos, and assignments, you will become the master of the enlightened relationship! [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [21 Day Plant-Based Plan for a Lighter, Happier YOU!]( 2. [Know When to Stay, Learn How to Leave]( 3. [Hypnosis Happy Hour]( 4. [Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility]( 5. [Overcoming Body Stiffness]( 6. [Fit and Fierce Over 40]( 7. [21 Day Tabata Yoga Body Challenge]( 8. [8 Week Whole Body Makeover!]( 9. [Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships]( 10. [Clearing Physical and Emotional Clutter]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2019 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]