The Black Sheep

The Black Sheep by [Madisyn Taylor]( When we move beyond comparisons and accept our differences, we appreciate the significance of our upbringing and socialization in each of our unique life's journey. Many of us have had an experience in which we felt like the lone black sheep in a vast sea of white sheep. For some of us, however, this sense of not belonging runs more deeply and spans a period of many years. It is possible to feel like the black sheep in families and peer groups that are supportive, as well as in those that are not. Even if we receive no overt criticism regarding our values, there will likely be times when it seems that relatives and friends are humoring us or waiting for us to grow out of a phase. Sometimes we may even think we have been adopted because we are so different from our family members. These feelings are not a sign that we have failed in some way to connect with others. Rather, they should be perceived as the natural result of our willingness to articulate our individuality. Many black sheep respond to the separateness they feel by pulling back from the very people to whom they might otherwise feel closest and embracing a different group with whom they enjoy a greater degree of commonality. But if you feel that your very nature has set you apart from your peers and relatives, consider that you chose long ago to be raised by a specific family and to come together with specific people so that you could have certain experiences that would contribute to your ongoing evolution. You may be much more sensitive than the people around you or more artistic, aware, spiritual, or imaginative. The disparate temperament of your values and those of your family or peers need not be a catalyst for interpersonal conflict. If you can move beyond comparisons and accept these differences, you will come to appreciate the significant role your upbringing and socialization have played in your life's unique journey. In time, most black sheep learn to embrace their differences and be thankful for those aspects of their individuality that set them apart from others. We cannot expect that our peers and relatives will suddenly choose to embrace our values and offer us the precise form of support we need. But we can acknowledge the importance of these individuals by devoting a portion of our energy to keeping these relationships healthy while continuing to define our own identities apart from them. [PRINT]( [SAVE]( [DISCUSS]( --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Lose Emotional and Physical Weight with Tapping]( by Marcella Friel As women, we are vessels by nature. We are conditioned to hold and contain the pain of others while bypassing our deeper truth. When others harm us, we are conditioned to believe it's somehow our fault. If there's no way to release those emotions and beliefs, we harm ourselves with substances such as food. While we look to diets and exercise to heal our food and body weight problems, those interventions will never be fully effective if we don't heal the emotions and beliefs that drive us to eat in ways that do not serve our highest good. The 21 lessons in this course include audio recordings and essays on forgiveness-related topics as well as potent writing and contemplation exercises. The main tool you will use throughout this course is a powerful stress-release tool called Tapping (also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT) that will re-pattern your neurology and make more room for acceptance and peace. Tapping is a gentle yet effective practice that reduces the emotional impact of memories and incidents that trigger stress. Tapping combines coaching techniques with acupressure in the form of light fingertip tapping on acupuncture points. The tapping acts as a circuit breaker on the electromagnetic signal of the stress and diffuses its emotional trigger. [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [21 Day Booty Core]( 2. [Fit and Fierce Over 40]( 3. [21 Days of Prayer to Change Your Life]( 4. [14 Day Spinal Reset]( 5. [Reinventing The Body, Resurrecting the Soul]( 6. [21 Day Yoga Shred]( 7. [21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals]( 8. [HIIT Yoga Fusion]( 9. [Make Yourself a Money Magnet]( 10. [A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back!]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( | [Gift Shop]() [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2016 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {NAME}[at]gmail.com (1276706) [1]