Putting People on a Pedestal

  [View Online]( INSPIRATION [Putting People on a Pedestal]( When you put somebody on a pedestal, you give away your power. When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception. They just don’t seem to have any negative qualities. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Oftentimes, we put our spiritual leaders and gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,” the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is — a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise. Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities, and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is. We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals — we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships. Did you like this Inspiration? ❁ Did you miss yesterday's inspiration? Click [here]( to view them all.   DailyOM Companion Course [If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?]( In order to find contentment with a partner, it's imperative to understand what is healthy and unhealthy behavior in a relationship. In this course, psychotherapist Avery Neal gives expert advice on how to heal from mistreatment and attain greater clarity around grounded, balanced love. With the support of mindfulness practices and journaling exercises, you'll learn to set boundaries and uncover your core needs to feel more fulfilled and at peace. By the end, you will emerge empowered, with the tools needed to journey toward a loving, supportive romance. [Learn More]( New Courses - [A Year of Walking Meditations to Cleanse and Renew Your Life]( - [The Whisper Method for Manifesting Anything]( - [Science-Based Plan to Reduce Visceral Fat]( - [The Japanese Secret to Slow Aging]( Recommended For You [Go Sleeveless in 14 Days]( [Learn More]( [Transforming Anger in Relationships]( [Learn More]( [7-Day Sculpt Yoga Challenge]( [Learn More]( [The Peaceful Warrior 4-Minute Meditation]( [Learn More]( [Healing Mantras for Anxiety and Depression]( [Learn More]( [Metabolism Reset: Stop Storing Fat and Repair Your Health]( [Learn More]( Top 10 Courses 1. [Science-Based Plan to Reduce Visceral Fat]( 2. [The Parasympathetic Nervous System Fix]( 3. [Somatic Exercises to Relax and Release]( 4. [The 10-Minute Method to Naturally Tighten Your Face]( 5. [A Year of Walking Meditations to Cleanse and Renew Your Life]( 6. [The Vagus Nerve Miracle]( 7. [10-Minute Exercises for Cortisol Control]( 8. [Increase Your Muscle Tone After 40 for Women]( 9. [Science-Based Lymphatic Drainage Rescue]( 10. [Yoga for People Who Can't Touch Their Toes]( Explore 350+ Courses There's something for everyone. What do you want to learn today? [Browse by Topic]( [DailyOM Logo](   [Facebook]( [Instagram]( [Pinterest]( [Twitter]( You are receiving this email because you're subscribed to DailyOM. You are registered with {EMAIL}. [Inspirations]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( [Remove me from this list]( | [Help/FAQ]( Copyright © 2024 [Everyday Health, Inc.]( All rights reserved. DailyOM is among the federally registered trademarks of Everyday Health, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without explicit permission. 114 Fifth Avenue, 15th Floor, New York, NY 10011 Subject to our [terms of service]( and [privacy policy](.