Help! I Haven’t Had Sex In Years And Want To Start Meeting People Again.

It’s all about baby steps. Apr. 01 2022 [Bustle logo](%2F%2Fbustle.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/kY4IRALn52xwrzHTIf5lYdhSV8o=264) [alt_text](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fstart-dating-again-depression-get-out-of-it%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/GpYqOVi2-iOFVQW7r3mqOGrffZo=264) [Help! I Haven’t Had Sex In Years And Want To Start Meeting People Again.](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fstart-dating-again-depression-get-out-of-it%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/RA2M9TRTG-fxLq0Dz6ED7ZrWQOg=264) In her latest “It’s A Pleasure” column, Sophia Benoit explores how someone should get back on the proverbial dating horse after years of no sex due to depression and body image issues — and, oh yeah, a global pandemic. Her advice? Baby steps. “Sex is the culmination of a whole lot of moments and decisions that you have control over,” she writes. “Take it slowly. Go out to a place that feels comfortable, talk to one person a week on the app and see how it feels, [flirt with someone](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fflirty-texts-to-send-after-a-first-date%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/0Oplbv9SkkwM9_Dsx4QjxnXzq_Y=264) in a low-key way.” [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fstart-dating-again-depression-get-out-of-it%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/3/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/TYd_w7LZj9MAMbxmPDpISPfFGU0=264) The Latest STYLE [“Bridgerton Boob” Helped Me Stop Being Embarrassed Of My 34G Cleavage](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fbridgerton-boob-destigmatizes-cleavage%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/XP7t383SN9iS2Xw7MghQI7JutGc=264) There’s been a lot of hubbub over the lack of [steamy sex scenes](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fbridgerton-sex-scenes-season-2-episodes%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/4CvVEgrZieGqyqfMy1Vb1ZIm1Kc=264) in Bridgerton Season 2. One lesser talked-about upside: how the corset-heavy wardrobe on one of Netflix’s most-watched series is normalizing, and even embracing, décolletage — specifically the “shelf-life top cleavage I’m calling Bridgerton Boob,” writes Bella Gerard, herself a woman with a 34G chest. “The characters’ cleavage-heavy ensembles don’t feel oversexualized,” she adds. “These women are simply existing with breasts in tow.” With corset sales up 407% over the past two months, it seems the hit show may be onto something. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fbridgerton-boob-destigmatizes-cleavage%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/nCZ8WNfdWgv_9-VsQW11zlKNkyI=264) 28 [At 28, Michelle Yeoh Left Acting To Become A Mom](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fmichelle-yeoh-everything-everywhere-all-at-once-marriage-kids-quotes%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/_F0KOHqQLvAOfA2bpWabi3DV6es=264) In the new film [Everything Everywhere All at Once](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fesme-weijun-wang-shock-everything-everywhere-all-at-once-story%3Futm_campaign=25840%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017fe768ecea-8d64b447-9388-4105-a5e3-cc7759dbf65e-000000/Byr3mKnQB_oUBI-bQdLRGgLf_3E=264), Michelle Yeoh plays a laundromat owner navigating the multiverse to help her husband and daughter. It’s a far cry from the real life of the 59-year-old actor, who was married briefly in the late 1980s and didn’t have children, although she wanted to at the time — and even left acting to do so. “I really, really wanted to start a family,” she says. “That was my new career move.” Here, Yeoh reflects on that period, going on to play iconic matriarchs, and the advice she’d give her 28-year-old self. 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