My Boyfriend Guilt-Trips Me Whenever I Turn Down Sex

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Dec. 30 2021 [Bustle logo](%2F%2Fbustle.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=18857%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017e0dda1e13-3571ffd0-2dbc-4ca6-b2a4-bcfafbef8a6b-000000/hQfaxjzBHAWrcVpl8bO3p-hHiyM=251) [alt_text](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fboyfriend-guilt-trip-turn-down-sex%3Futm_campaign=18857%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017e0dda1e13-3571ffd0-2dbc-4ca6-b2a4-bcfafbef8a6b-000000/TH4h1CcR0g5Yik87LApS-lMhPX4=251) [My Boyfriend Gets Really Insecure Every Time I Turn Down Sex](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fboyfriend-guilt-trip-turn-down-sex%3Futm_campaign=18857%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017e0dda1e13-3571ffd0-2dbc-4ca6-b2a4-bcfafbef8a6b-000000/luoTLj7OfMU2pCTS0FmFMomyO9Y=251) In a perfect world, there would be no homelessness, a new, equally good Beyoncé single every day, and everyone’s sex drive would align 100% with their partner’s. Unfortunately, that’s not the case for most couples. And while it’s never going to feel good when your boo turns down your freaky proposition, it shouldn’t cause an insecurity spiral that results in an hours-long conversation about the state of your relationship every time, either. “Think about sex like eating,” writes Bustle’s sex columnist Sophia Benoit. “If you said, ‘Hey, do you want to have lunch now?’ and your partner replied, ‘Oh, no, I’m not hungry,’ and then you got upset, that would be absolutely bananas, right?” Right, so here’s her advice about how to change that dynamic. 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