My Boyfriend Gained Weight & Now I'm Less Attracted To Him!

Plus, the sneaky thing Salma Hayek used to do when she was 28. Nov. 05 2021 [Bustle logo](%2F%2Fbustle.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/snTARdkkmpcingYuyviTCaB4JrE=243) [alt_text](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Frule-breakers%2Fshalita-grant-you-search-party-fights-sweet%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/pvaePBuee9Lu2M4IF6hH9xDgkc4=243) [Shalita Grant’s Real Life Is Somehow Even More Captivating Than You](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Frule-breakers%2Fshalita-grant-you-search-party-fights-sweet%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/VlIgOBGH_gjrdvl2CukpEwZVzSg=243) After scene-stealing turns in the most recent seasons of both Search Party and You, people are finally paying attention to Shalita Grant. “If this person that I am now is getting the most attention, that’s great. Because I was a sh*thead a lot,” Grant says. But getting to this point was no walk in the park. Here, the 4-foot-11 actor tells Bustle about her “hellish” childhood, her bout with evangelical Christianity, discovering her sexuality, and not taking things personally. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Frule-breakers%2Fshalita-grant-you-search-party-fights-sweet%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/3/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/lCG1QjdVi4Judc7to0H9eyHQR3A=243) The Latest SHOPPING [Fill Up Your Sephora Cart](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fsephora-holiday-2021-sale%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/mbX-_DmpxuZlOi2mvEZxMW903_Q=243) Almost everything from the beauty retailer is fair game during its holiday sale, which kicks off (for Rouge members) today. Grab a gift for the makeup lover in your life or splurge on a big-ticket item for yourself. 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In her latest tease, Swift announced there will be an [accompanying short film](%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fp%2FCV5QaFcp0PF%2F%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/yf-sVsJDiBHKtauTSvoOdtiovaA=243) for the 10-minute version of “All Too Well,” which will star actors from both Stranger Things and Teen Wolf. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Ftaylor-swift-red-taylors-version-album-details%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/qOeUmbH866q0C6TbJee052hPlTw=243) “The [message from my ancestors](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Frule-breakers%2Fshalita-grant-you-search-party-fights-sweet%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/4/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/KWT0HIg0FvWtcQI1nWk_idCe7m0=243) was, ‘You are a honey-dipped machete. Fight sweet and don’t allow the battles to harden you.’” —Shalita Grant, actor Must Reads %2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fmy-boyfriend-gained-weight-now-im-not-attracted-to-him%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/H1o0sZuhOIC5SxEEhQ4JNINIWSw=243 IT’S A PLEASURE [My Boyfriend Gained Weight & Now I Think I'm Not Attracted To Him!](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fmy-boyfriend-gained-weight-now-im-not-attracted-to-him%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/0jzBCFbrg9PZBwZM5vHaBkTmvio=243) Not unlike weight, attraction is something that waxes and wanes over time. “It’s normal to be less attracted to someone when they aren’t caring for themselves, when they aren’t taking initiative, when they have less of an external life going on than they did before,” writes Bustle sex columnist Sophia Benoit. But that doesn’t mean the attraction can’t recover, and in the meantime, “Love can carry you for a bit.” [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fmy-boyfriend-gained-weight-now-im-not-attracted-to-him%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/3/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/utYnJEkgBqJRo2x2c-kN3Gw7ULc=243) %2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Ffoundation-lee-pace-apple-tv-opinion%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/1/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/ATGXHuvdBi1cTgAtgTobeJl5CXk=243 STREAMING [Foundation Isn't A Dystopia — It's A Lee Pace-Filled Paradise](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Ffoundation-lee-pace-apple-tv-opinion%3Futm_campaign=14157%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=d742a11b-2f24-42a9-beac-3c81e347d43a/2/0100017cf260cf9a-2b40f684-c50a-4991-8fb8-2401335be7de-000000/8KObXxr58iWW6tYPSAoEbis2RcM=243) Apple TV’s new sci-fi series is, on its face, about a loathsome dystopia in which one man rules over the whole world, cloning himself over and over again for centuries. 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