It’s Goth GirlfriendTM Season

Plus the expert guide to first dates. Sep. 24 2021 [Bustle logo](%2F%2Fbustle.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/GleaDBZ-oZRlo34InBeOAS8yM_Q=237) [alt_text](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fkourtney-kardashian-relationship-chameleon-partner-hobbies-interests%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/5ETFU67tpHbZD_FrPfcLAt_TTXQ=237) [Calling All Relationship Chameleons](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fkourtney-kardashian-relationship-chameleon-partner-hobbies-interests%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/2/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/_zoorvILOpZ0f9DxTzTNefHuPCU=237) Few 2021 news stories have been more invigorating than Kourtney Kardashian’s very public transformation into Travis Barker’s Goth Girlfriend™. The blessings have been endless — [all-black leather ensembles](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fkourtney-kardashian-travis-barker-vmas-2021-red-carpet-looks-matching%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/xbliSXTblVzO6mh1inyINj06Xz8=237), [red carpet tongue-touching](%2F%2Fwww.thecut.com%2F2021%2F09%2Fkourtney-kardashian-travis-barker-pda-mtv-vmas-red-carpet.html%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/oyqHY4KsEySH2ucfkcQLBR5vMnI=237), a [very raunchy SKIMS campaign](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fkourtney-kardashian-megan-fox-skims-ad%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/AZ7t4kcZXwZSNdolKO2y1kFUMbI=237) with fellow Goth GF Megan Fox — but how much goth is too much goth when you weren’t a goth to begin with? We asked some experts, and well, it’s complicated. “Sometimes it can be difficult to distinguish whether you are expanding and strengthening your world or accommodating so much that you give up your values and uniqueness,” one clinical psychotherapist tells Bustle. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fkourtney-kardashian-relationship-chameleon-partner-hobbies-interests%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/3/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/4m2TOTgpvYmZjCzHnkn7GdXq-Co=237) The Latest CELEBRITY [Is Britney Finally About To Be Freed?](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fbritney-spears-sept-29-court-hearing-what-to-expect%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/CLOS0rJSVFrqcr1-AItNNNBlCPw=237) Mark Sept. 29 on your calendars, because it’s Britney Spears’ next conservatorship hearing. Since the previous court date, Spears has petitioned to [remove her father](%2F%2Fwww.nytimes.com%2F2021%2F09%2F22%2Farts%2Fmusic%2Fbritney-spears-jamie-conservatorship.html%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/ilFKE9BtJU2GoS8zab_3rU9OWG8=237), Jamie, from the conservatorship, while Jamie has asked for the whole arrangement to be terminated. The latter was seen as a huge win for the 39-year-old [newly engaged](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fbritney-spears-engaged-sam-asghari-ring-instagram-video%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/dWMqxgwRyIdNigxGG1BxodU_gro=237) singer, but experts think there’s a strong chance the guardianship won’t be entirely eliminated next week. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fentertainment%2Fbritney-spears-sept-29-court-hearing-what-to-expect%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/2/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/v9OZF1eN_fNen6T96LWpiYmZ-0k=237) WELLNESS [Cold, Cold Water](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fhow-to-make-yourself-feel-better%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/-gYZiStlPdYpZLXJlKsFn4b52f0=237) You’d be forgiven if you thought people submerging their face in cold water when stressed was the type of thing that only happened in movies, like [bad guys who can’t shoot straight](%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv=fek5N-eu-Vk%26utm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/SbnnkDZ0_MPFARyOM9TRcfAvzAU=237) and 23-year-old creatives renting [enormous SoHo lofts](%2F%2Fwww.ranker.com%2Flist%2Fcharacters-with-expensive-homes%2Fdonn-saylor%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/05Xvc2ZURMNPcEu2PCKle98j3lk=237). Well, in this instance, science actually backs up the screenwriters. “Submerging your face in cold water is a technique for managing intense emotional arousal,” one therapist tells Bustle. Basically, your body thinks you’re underwater and slows your heart rate to conserve oxygen. Who knew? [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fhow-to-make-yourself-feel-better%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/2/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/CifvdteE31qKwoFNXW_FAA6a2cs=237) BEAUTY [Red Lip, Class-ic](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fstyle%2Fmac-ruby-woo-lipstick-expansion%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/03n6PanWYSOKCZn-52f79A0jWwo=237) Did you know that M.A.C’s Ruby Woo lipstick is so popular that the brand sells four tubes every minute? Also, chances are one of those four buyers could well be a celebrity since Taylor Swift, Tracee Ellis Ross, Saweetie, Rosalía, and Rihanna herself are all fans of the shade. The brand just announced that the blue-based lippy will be available in a mixture of swanky new finishes. 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I just don’t see myself being exclusive.” Curious what to do next? Columnist Sophia Benoit has the answers. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fi-feel-guilty-because-i-dont-want-commitment%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/3/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/ouWE7wYlb5SuJCCoXUmfOinw5PQ=237) %2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Flife%2Fbiggest-differences-between-september-october-libras-astrologer%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/zzLGqJr7vp2zxbWx13bUc9jaTYc=237 ASTROLOGY [Not All Libras Are Made Equal](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Flife%2Fbiggest-differences-between-september-october-libras-astrologer%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/2/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/3j1N7YeK76Lw4rwMyMVwfEPKiB4=237) [Libra season is upon us](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Flife%2Flibra-zodiac-signs-personality-traits-love-compatibility-astrology%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/UJY2nJyRe_cB4p5KyGHG-eNYH9o=237), but if you have friends and family who are born between Sept. 23 and Oct. 22, don’t assume they’re all cut from the same cloth. In fact, each sign is split into three consecutive decans of 10 days duration, and each cohort has a slightly different mix of characteristics. Some are flirty and charming, others are logic-driven fiends. It’s called balance. [Read More](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Flife%2Fbiggest-differences-between-september-october-libras-astrologer%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/3/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/hUZxV4HVWyXmsoPzjp38u6litTk=237) %2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fgirls-gotta-eat-rayna-greenberg-ashley-hesseltine-guide-to-first-dates%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/c6W_fq9V6AEPgiVXRTdX_OcTVP4=237 DATING [The Expert Guide To First Dates](%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Fwellness%2Fgirls-gotta-eat-rayna-greenberg-ashley-hesseltine-guide-to-first-dates%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/2/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/PN79aQ5PzYJk9LMg3zIIypSOxyI=237) “The phrase, ‘I’d prefer to just order my own meal and not share’ — that’s gonna be a hard no for me,” says Rayna Greenberg, host of the blockbuster relationships podcast [Girl’s Gotta Eat](%2F%2Fwww.girlsgottaeatpodcast.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=10780%26utm_medium=bustle%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=dd8f2fbc-2678-4896-8220-cb1800f74c7f/1/0100017c1a0d16a3-c80a4099-2d1c-4ecd-9ae7-5059ee8a7583-000000/DI7WZXIzk1DziKuGARIu2Pm1ZCo=237). We spoke to Greenberg and co-host Ashley Hesseltine to discuss first dates, app etiquette, and some very specific green flags; i.e., “If he has a rescue dog, flirtatiously roasts me, still laughs at Four Seasons Total Landscaping,” then Hesseltine’s all in, and honestly, fair. 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