Keith Haring on loving life in the face of death, Mary Oliver on what an owl taught her about happiness, the author of "The Little Prince" on love

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[Of Owls and Roses: Mary Oliver on Happiness, Terror, and the Sublime Interconnectedness of Life]( [maryoliver_owls.jpg?fit=320%2C428]( “Go to the limits of your longing… Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror,” Rilke [urged]( in his Book of Hours, his poetic cadence assuring us to “just keep going,” for “nearby is the country they call life.” Rilke sensed that, as the great naturalist John Muir observed a generation earlier, [“when we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the universe.”]( In such a universe, beauty is not so easily unhitched from terror — they coexist in one of those essential batteries whose two poles, like fear and hope, charge life with meaning, with aliveness. We see this everywhere in nature: Virginia Woolf captured it in her [arresting account of a total solar eclipse]( and Coleridge captured it in contemplating [the interplay of terror and transcendence in a storm](. And like all that is true of nature, this duality of beauty and terror is also true of the subset of nature comprising our experience — the subset we call human nature: When happiness comes at us unbidden and elemental, there is almost a terror to its coming — to the totality of it, to the way it submerges and saturates and supinates us with something vast and uncontrollable and sublime, thrusting us past the limits of our longing. This essential battery is what Mary Oliver (September 10, 1935–January 17, 2019) — a Rilke for our own time: a rare philosopher-poet of immense and tender attentiveness to the living world and to our human interiority — explores in one of the pieces collected in the 2003 treasure [Owls and Other Fantasies: Poems and Essays]( ([public library](. [pigmyowl.jpg?resize=680%2C552] Owls from Richard Lydekker’s [1893 natural history of owls](. (Available [as a print]( and [as a face mask]( benefiting The Nature Conservancy.) In an essay about owls — which, like all excellent essays, fans out fractally from its subject to become about something else, something elemental and existential — Oliver reflects on [these mysterious and astonishing creatures]( as she wanders the woodlands of Provincetown near her home, searching for the nest of the great horned owl, “this bird with the glassy gaze, restless on the bough, nothing but blood on its mind.” She writes: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]In the night, when the owl is less than exquisitely swift and perfect, the scream of the rabbit is terrible. But the scream of the owl, which is not of pain and hopelessness and the fear of being plucked out of the world, but of the sheer rollicking glory of the death-bringer, is more terrible still. When I hear it resounding through the woods, and then the five black pellets of its song dropping like stones into the air, I know I am standing at the edge of the mystery, in which terror is naturally and abundantly part of life, part of even the most becalmed, intelligent, sunny life — as, for example, my own. The world where the owl is endlessly hungry and endlessly on the hunt is the world in which I live too. There is only one world. In this one world — a miraculous and irreplaceable world; a world in which, as the poetic scientist and nature writer Loren Eiseley [so memorably observed]( “we forget that nature itself is one vast miracle transcending the reality of night and nothingness… that each one of us in his personal life repeats that miracle” — the bloodthirst in the owl’s bosom is inseparable from the lifethirst in our own, as beauty and terror are inseparable from one another and from the fulness of being that is life being lived. [elizabethblackwell_curiousherbal_poppy.jpg?resize=680%2C986] Red poppy by the self-taught 18th-century artist and botanist Elizabeth Blackwell from [the world’s first encyclopedia of medicinal plants](. (Available [as a print]( and [as a face mask]( benefiting The Nature Conservancy.) In a passage evocative of Willa Cather’s [splendid definition of happiness]( Oliver writes: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]Sometimes, while I have stood listening to the owl’s song drifting through the trees, when it is ten degrees above nothing and life for any small creature is hard enough without that, I have found myself thinking of summer fields. Fields full of flowers — poppies or lupines. Or, here, fields where the roses hook into the dunes, and their increase is manyfold. All summer they are red and pink and white tents of softness and nectar, which wafts and hangs everywhere — a sweetness so palpable and excessive that, before it, I’m struck, I’m taken, I’m conquered; I’m washed into it, as though it was a river, full of dreaming and idleness — I drop to the sand, I can’t move; I am restless no more; I am replete, supine, finished, filled to the last edges with an immobilizing happiness. And is this not also terrible? Is this not also frightening? Are the roses not also — even as the owl is — excessive? Each flower is small and lovely, but in their sheer and silent abundance the roses become an immutable force, as though the work of the wild roses was to make sure that all of us, who come wandering over the sand, may be, for a while, struck to the heart and saturated with a simple joy. Let the mind be teased by such stretches of the imagination, by such balance. Now I am cringing at the very sound of the owl’s dark wings opening over my head — not long ago I could do nothing but lounge on the sand and stare into the cities of the roses. [twanyowl1.jpg?resize=680%2C729] Owl from Lydekker’s [1893 natural history of owls](. (Available [as a print]( and [a face mask]( benefiting The Nature Conservancy.) Complement the altogether wondrous [Owls and Other Fantasies]( with Oliver on [how to live with maximal aliveness]( [the two building blocks of creativity]( her [advice on writing]( her [moving elegy for her soul mate]( and her [radiant ode to trees](. [Forward to a friend]( Online]( [Like on Facebook]( donating=loving Every week since 2006, I have been pouring tremendous time, thought, love, and resources into Brain Pickings, which remains free and is made possible by patronage. If you find any joy and solace in my labor of love, please consider supporting it with a donation. And if you already donate, from the bottom of my heart: THANK YOU. 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You can beam some bit-love my way: 197usDS6AsL9wDKxtGM6xaWjmR5ejgqem7 [The Love of Life in the Face of Death: Keith Haring on Self-Doubt, the Fragility of Being, and Creativity as the Antidote to Our Mortal Anxiety]( [keithharingjournals.jpg?fit=320%2C478]( “Life loves the liver of it,” Maya Angelou observed as she [contemplated the meaning of life]( in 1977, exhorting: “You must live and life will be good to you.” That spring, the teenage Keith Haring (May 4, 1958–February 16, 1990) — who would grow up to revolutionize not only art and activism, but the spirit of a generation and the soul of a city — grappled with the meaning of his own life and what it really means to live it on the pages of his diary, posthumously published as the quiet, symphonic wonder [Keith Haring Journals]( ([public library](. [drawingonwalls_haring17.jpg] Art by Josh Cochran from [Drawing on Walls: A Story of Keith Haring]( by Matthew Burgess Five days before his nineteenth birthday and shortly before he left his hometown of Pittsburgh for a netless leap of faith toward New York City, he confronts [the difficulty of knowing what we really want]( and writes: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]This is a blue moment… it’s blue because I’m confused, again; or should I say “still”? I don’t know what I want or how to get it. I act like I know what I want, and I appear to be going after it — fast, but I don’t, when it comes down to it, even know. In a passage of extraordinary precocity, he echoes the young Van Gogh’s reflection on [fear, taking risks, and how inspired mistakes propel us forward]( and considers how [the trap of self-comparison]( is keeping him from developing his own artistic and human potential: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I guess it’s because I’m afraid. Afraid I’m wrong. And I guess I’m afraid I’m wrong, because I constantly relate myself to other people, other experiences, other ideas. I should be looking at both in perspective, not comparing. I relate my life to an idea or an example that is some entirely different life. I should be relating it to my life only in the sense that each has good and bad facets. Each is separate. The only way the other attained enough merit, making it worthy of my admiration, or long to copy it is by taking chances, taking it in its own way. It has grown with different situations and has discovered different heights of happiness and equal sorrows. If I always seek to pattern my life after another, mine is being wasted re-doing things for my own empty acceptance. But, if I live my life my way and only let the other [artists] influence me as a reference, a starting point, I can build an even higher awareness instead of staying dormant… I only wish that I could have more confidence and try to forget all my silly preconceptions, misconceptions, and just live. Just live. Just. Live. Just live till I die. And then — in a testament to my resolute conviction, [along with Blake]( that all great natures are lovers of trees — he adds: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I found a tree in this park that I’m gonna come back to, someday. It stretches sideways out over the St. Croix river and I can sit on it and balance lying on it perfectly. [Giant_by_MariaPopova.jpg?resize=680%2C907] “Perspective” by Maria Popova Within a decade, Haring’s resolve to “just live” until he dies collided with the sudden proximity of a highly probable death — the spacious until contracted into a span uncertain but almost certainly short as the AIDS epidemic began slaying his generation. A century after the uncommonly perceptive and poetic diarist Alice James — William and Henry James’s brilliant and sidelined sister — wrote upon receiving a terminal diagnosis that the remaining stretch of life before her is [“the most supremely interesting moment in life, the only one in fact when living seems life,”]( Haring, having taken a long break from his own diary, returns to the mirror of the blank page and faces the powerful, paradoxical way in which the proximity of death charges living with life: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I keep thinking that the main reason I am writing is fear of death. I think I finally realize the importance of being alive. When I was watching the 4th of July fireworks the other night and saw my friend Martin [Burgoyne], I saw death. He says he has been tested and cleared of having AIDS, but when I looked at him I saw death. Life is so fragile. In a sentiment evocative of neurologist Oliver Sacks’s memorable observation [in his poetic and courageous exit from life]( that when people die, “they leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate — the genetic and neural fate — of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death,” Haring adds: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]It is a very fine line between life and death. I realize I am walking this line. Living in New York City and also flying on airplanes so much, I face the possibility of death every day. And when I die there is nobody to take my place… That is true of a lot of people (or everyone) because everyone is an individual and everyone is important in that they cannot be replaced. But even as he shudders with the fragility of life, Haring continues to shimmer with the largehearted love of life that gives his art its timeless exuberance: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]Touching people’s lives in a positive way is as close as I can get to an idea of religion. Belief in one’s self is only a mirror of belief in other people and every person. [drawingonwalls_haring4.jpg] Art by Josh Cochran from [Drawing on Walls: A Story of Keith Haring]( by Matthew Burgess He returns to the love of life that charged his days with meaning and his art with magnetism — a love both huge and humble, at the center of which is our eternal dance with mystery: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I think it is very important to be in love with life. I have met people who are in their 70s and 80s who love life so much that, behind their aged bodies, the numbers disappear. Life is very fragile and always elusive. As soon as we think we “understand,” there is another mystery. I don’t understand anything. That is, I think, the key to understand everything. Again and again, Haring declares on the pages of his journal that he lives for work, for art — the purpose of which, of course, if there is any purpose to art, is to make other lives more livable. As the specter of AIDS hovers closer and closer to him, this creative vitality pulses more and more vigorously through him, reverberating with Albert Camus’s insistence that [“there is no love of life without despair of life.”]( In early 1988, weeks before his thirtieth birthday and shortly before he finally received the diagnosis perching on the event horizon of his daily life, Haring composes a seething cauldron of a journal entry, about to boil with the overwhelming totality of his love of life: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I love paintings too much, love color too much, love seeing too much, love feeling too much, love art too much, love too much. By the following month, he has metabolized the terrifying too-muchness into a calm acceptance radiating even more love: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I accept my fate, I accept my life. I accept my shortcomings, I accept the struggle. I accept my inability to understand. I accept what I will never become and what I will never have. I accept death and I accept life. After the sudden death of one of his closest friends in a crash — a friend so close that Haring was the godfather of his son — he copies one of his friend’s newly poignant poems about life and death into his journal, then writes beneath it: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]Creativity, biological or otherwise, is my only link with a relative mortality. But perhaps his most poignant and prophetic entry came a decade earlier — a short verse-like reflection nested in a sprawling meditation on art, life, kinship, and individuality, penned on Election Day: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]I am not a beginning. I am not an end. I am a link in a chain. Keith Haring died on February 16, 1990, barely into his thirties, leaving us his exuberant love of life encoded in mirthful lines and vibrant colors that have made millions of other lives — [mine included]( — immensely more livable. Couple with [Drawing on Walls]( — a wonderful picture-book biography of Haring inspired by his journals — then revisit a young neurosurgeon’s [poignant meditation on the meaning of life]( as he faces his own death, an elderly comedian-philosopher on [how to live fully while dying]( and an astronomer-poet’s sublime [“Antidotes to Fear of Death.”]( [Forward to a friend]( Online]( [Like on Facebook]( [“Little Prince” Author Antoine de Saint-Exupéry on Love, Mortality, and Night as an Existential Clarifying Force for the Deepest Truths of the Heart]( [flighttoarras_exupery.jpg?fit=320%2C485]( “For a moment of night we have a glimpse of ourselves and of our world islanded in its stream of stars — pilgrims of mortality, voyaging between horizons across eternal seas of space and time,” the great nature writer Henry Beston exulted in his stunning 1928 meditation on [how night nourishes the human spirit](. Indeed, there is a strange splendor to night, to how it envelops us in its consolatory darkness and lets us metabolize the day’s sorrows, how it clarifies our confusions in [dreams we never fully comprehend]( how it reminds us that each time the Earth turns away from the Sun, our days are diminished by one. No one has articulated this clarifying power of night, nor its attunement to the urgency of mortality, more beautifully than Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (June 29, 1900–July 31, 1944) in his philosophical memoir [Flight to Arras]( ([public library]( composed just as he was about to publish The Little Prince. [exupery3.jpg?w=680] Antoine de Saint-Exupéry The afternoon before a terrifying reconnaissance mission to fly over the German tank parks scattered across Arras, Saint-Exupéry finds himself preoccupied with questions of war, death, sacrifice, and heroism, but vows to think about them that night, if he returns live. He contemplates this time of numinous clarity, beyond the cold metallic thought-containers of the daytime analytical mind: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]Night, when words fade and things come alive. When the destructive analysis of day is done, and all that is truly important becomes whole and sound again. When man reassembles his fragmentary self and grows with the calm of the trees. [thelittleprince_morgan6.jpg] One of Saint-Exupéry’s [original watercolors for The Little Prince](. Thrust into a moment of existential reverie by this twilight confrontation with mortality, he adds: [2e292385-dc1c-4cfe-b95e-845f6f98c2ec.png]Day belongs to family quarrels, but with the night he who has quarreled finds love again. For love is greater than any wind of words… Love is not thinking, but being… I longed for night and for the rebirth in me of the being that merits love. For night, when my thoughts would be of civilization, of the destiny of man, of the savour of friendship in my native land. For night, so that I may yearn to serve some overwhelming purpose which at this moment I cannot define. For night, so that I may advance a step towards fixing it in my unmanageable language. I longed for night as the poet might do, the true poet who feels himself inhabited by a things obscure but powerful, and who strives to erect images like ramparts round the thing in order to capture it. To capture it in the snare of images. […] I should wait for night, I said to myself; and if I am still alive I would walk alone… Alone and safely isolated in my beloved solitude. So that I might discover why it is I ought to die. Four years later, as [The Little Prince]( was meeting the open arms of the world with its timeless message of love beyond life and death, Saint-Exupéry disappeared into the Mediterranean night on a reconnaissance mission, never to be seen again. Couple with Aldous Huxley on [the transcendent power of music at night]( then revisit Saint-Exupéry on [what the desert taught him about the meaning of life]( and [how a simple human smile saved his life during the war](. [Forward to a friend]( Online]( [Like on Facebook]( donating=loving Every week since 2006, I have been pouring tremendous time, thought, love, and resources into Brain Pickings, which remains free and is made possible by patronage. If you find any joy and solace in my labor of love, please consider supporting it with a donation. And if you already donate, from the bottom of my heart: THANK YOU. (If you've had a change of heart or circumstance and wish to rescind your support, you can do so [at this link]( monthly donation You can become a Sustaining Patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing, between a cup of tea and a Brooklyn lunch.  one-time donation Or you can become a Spontaneous Supporter with a one-time donation in any amount. 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