Don't hate the Email Player, hate the game

An Email Players subscriber once asked: === From your perspective now, do you think you need to “forget about girls” while you’re on your grind, especially in your 20s? And if not, how do you balance your mission and girls, without it negatively affecting your success (especially if you don’t really want a serious relationship & prefer to have multiple girls at the same time)? Asking cause it’s something I’m always debating in my head & you seem to be very into the dating stuff, while also always being on top of business === My loving, nurturing advice which guys should take with a grain of pepper: 1. Apply the Dante Nero’ism of “Never ask the deer how to hunt it, ask the hunter” (i.e., don’t ask women about how to find, attract, and land a woman, they’ve never had to do it, and don’t know how — instead ask a guy who has done it successfully). 2. Remember the Patrice O’Neal’ism of happiness trickles down from you to her, not from her to you. If every guy understood that instead of constantly chasing their wife or girlfriend's emotions all over hell & gone, the world would be a much merrier and less chaotic place for both of the two genders. 3. Never let women, especially any one woman, be your main focus — they come into your world, not the other way around. 4. Which means: Create a life (business, personal, etc) you want, invite women in as guests to do fun things (don’t ask or beg, invite and do whatever you’re going to do with or without them, whether they come along or not). Those who like your world will want to say, those who don’t will leave. The one left standing and sticks around longest wins, and has most likely proven herself to be the most worthy of your long term commitment, charm, resources, and, yes, name. Really curate the hell out of them at every stage, too. All of them. Especially the one you like best. Test them, and try to break them (figuratively not physically or emotionally obviously — not talking about actual abuse, let the insanely literal reader who can’t do abstract thinking take note… I’m talking about testing for honesty, integrity, and compliance to see if they are who and what they say). I mean, let’s face it — these days it may not even BE a woman you’re talking to... For any sob sisters thinking the above is “mean”, all I’ll say is this: I did all the above to Stefania. And she will be the first to tell you she wouldn’t have had it any other way. 5. And finally, for the younger guys (20's) frustrated with flakes, hot/cold, ghosting, etc: I don’t care who you are or where in life you’re at now (beat with the ugly stick, broke, social misfit, scared of girls, zero charisma, puny, zero confidence, whatever it is) — every year you are building your business and your world and your success and your confidence and your health, body, charm, and communication skills... your stock is going up, while with each passing year and with each additional relationship, boyfriend, marriage, hookup… your precious unicorn's stock is going down. Many will vehemently deny this easily observable fact. And you can either believe it or not. But if you do the above, eventually you’ll probably be in the catbird seat - especially when it comes to those more interested in having wisdom, security, and a family than in having a Tinder and Bumble account. For anyone reading this who's "offended", don't hate the Email Player. Hate the game.. And on that note: In a lot of ways the above approach can be adapted to marketing and business too. Especially getting, keeping, and profiting from clients or long term customers. And if you want more of your humble email horror host’s elixers for this sort of thing, check out the 5-issue bundle of Villains-Time Day “Email Players” issues bundle together still on sale until tonight (2/9) at midnight EST. Hit the jump below for more info: [https∶//www.EmailPlayers.com/villainstime-day]( Ben Settle This email was sent by Ben Settle as owner of Settle, LLC. Copyright © 2024 Settle, LLC. All Rights Reserved. No part of this email may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written permission from Settle, LLC. Click here to [unsubscribe]( Settle, LLC PO Box 1056 Gold Beach Oregon 97444 USA