This Is The Scientific Way To Cure Loneliness

Barking Up The Wrong Tree May 17th, 2022 --------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------- This Is The Scientific Way To Cure Loneliness Today is the final day in our 7-day social skills boot camp from my book [Plays Well With Others](. Even if you already have the book, below is a quick tip you can put to use immediately. (And if you don’t have the book, it’s available now and already an Amazon bestseller. Grab your copy [here]( The ghostly hollowness of feeling lonely. It’s like your soul is being asphyxiated. You feel completely embalmed. We all dealt with it a bit during the pandemic. For me, writing this book over the past two years was a life of quiet desperation. (Who am I kidding? My desperation has never been quiet.) So when you feel lonely, how do you prevent the demons from commandeering too much real estate inside your head? Many people would tell you to just spend more time with others. A good idea in general, but far from the killshot cure you think... From [Plays Well With Others]( A 2003 study by John Cacioppo showed, on average, lonely people actually spend as much time with others as nonlonely people do. Cacioppo writes: “The amount of time spent with others and the frequency of interaction did not add much to the prediction of loneliness. What did predict loneliness was an issue of quality: the individuals’ ratings of the meaningfulness, or the meaninglessness, of their encounters with other people.” If merely spending time with other people could remedy loneliness, we’d never feel “lonely in a crowd.” But sometimes we do. That’s because loneliness isn’t really about proximity to people -- loneliness is how you feel about your relationships. If you have a tight family and good friends, you might miss them when traveling but you wouldn’t be in the despair of loneliness. And if your relationships are shallow, you can be surrounded by others and still feel a million miles away. A hug can just make you sadder. So deepen those connections. Get to know your friends better and open up to them. Join a group. Form a group. Volunteer. We’re looking for a home not a homepage. So get off the internet and deepen that connection to your tribe. That’s it for our little social skills boot camp. I hope it’s been helpful to you. The [book]( has many other methods for becoming more connected – and even reveals what all your social groups need in order to thrive. BTW - I’m still getting flooded with requests for the [bonuses](. (Note to self: do a blog post on procrastination soon.) Here’s what I’m going to do so nobody can call me a meanie -- final final deadline for bonuses: 5/18, 11:59PM Pacific Time. Just reply to this email with proof of purchase and you literally get 25% more book. Bonuses will be sent by me to your email by the end of the week. Grab the book at [Amazon]( [Barnes and Noble]( [Books A Million]( [Indiebound]( or [Bookshop](. Thanks! Eric This email was sent to {EMAIL} [why did I get this?](    [unsubscribe from this list](    [update subscription preferences]( Bakadesuyo · 8033 Sunset Boulevard, #1073 · Los Angeles, CA 90046 · USA