This Is The Simple Way To Prevent Divorce

Barking Up The Wrong Tree May 14th, 2022 --------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------- This Is The Simple Way To Prevent Divorce Today is day four in our 7-day social skills boot camp from my book [Plays Well With Others](. Even if you already have the book, below is a quick tip you can put to use immediately. (And if you don’t have the book, it’s available now and already an Amazon bestseller. Grab your copy [here]( How do we make love last? A lot of people fear that if they raise issues with their partner it can lead to arguing and that will end the relationship. So they stay silent... But it is doubleplusungood wrongthink to believe that complaining is a problem. The research shows bottling up actually ends more marriages than arguing. Complaining, in the big picture, is actually a positive – it gets issues out in the open where they can be resolved. What leads to divorce isn’t complaining; it’s criticism. From [Plays Well With Others]( Complaining is actually healthy for a marriage. It’s criticism that predicts divorce. Complaining is when I say you did not take the trash out. Criticism is when I say you did not take the trash out because you’re a horrible person. The first is about an event, the second is about your fundamental personality. To keep your relationship solid, turn your criticisms into complaints. Address the event, not the person. To say that criticism is bad for a relationship is like saying “The Grand Canyon is kinda big.” True but insufficient. Researcher John Gottman found it was one of four things that predicted divorce 83.3% of the time. So don’t be afraid to raise that issue -- but don’t make it personal. Address the problem, not their character. This leads to conversations that actually make your relationship stronger. That’s the tip for today. I’ll be back tomorrow with another one. The [book]( has many other methods for improving marriages -- and explains the other three things that most commonly lead to divorce. And I extended the [bonus]( deadline to 5/16. Just reply to this email with proof of purchase and you literally get 25% more book. Bonuses will be sent by me to your email on 5/18. Grab it at [Amazon]( [Barnes and Noble]( [Books A Million]( [Indiebound]( or [Bookshop](. Thanks! Eric This email was sent to {EMAIL} [why did I get this?](    [unsubscribe from this list](    [update subscription preferences]( Bakadesuyo · 8033 Sunset Boulevard, #1073 · Los Angeles, CA 90046 · USA