This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Arguments

Barking Up The Wrong Tree May 12th, 2022 --------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------- This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Arguments Today is day three in our 7-day social skills boot camp from my new book [Plays Well With Others](. Even if you already have the book, below is a quick tip you can put to use immediately. (And if you don’t have the book, it’s available now and already an Amazon bestseller. Grab your copy [here]( Your partner does something that upsets you. Their head seems to remain defiantly empty of your needs. You can feel your eyes narrowing. Blood pressure rising. You wanna get angry and give them a piece of your mind – but hold on a second. Yes, we might want to speak from the heart, but sometimes that heart needs a bypass... From [Plays Well With Others]( Just by listening to the first three minutes of an argument, researcher John Gottman could predict the result 96 percent of the time. Plain and simple: if it starts harsh, it’s going to end harsh. And harsh startup not only predicted the outcome of the conversation, it predicted divorce. Start relationship discussions gently. Starting conversations harshly isn’t a “slippery slope” — it’s a single heavily greased step. Ninety-six percent of the time. Unless you and I can find a way to revise the laws of probability, you are on your way to a brawl faster than you can say "irreconcilable differences.” (I can relate. Whenever I open my mouth, someone gets angry. Sometimes it’s me.) So take a deep breath. Use your nicest inside voice. Show some compassion. Raise the issue diplomatically. Your romantic relationship can make a cosmic leap forward just from that one small tweak... That’s the tip for today. I’ll be back tomorrow with another one. The [book]( has many other methods for boosting love -- and even an ethical and effective way to get your partner to change. And I extended the [bonus]( deadline to 5/16. Just reply to this email with proof of purchase and you literally get 25% more book. Bonuses will be sent by me to your email on 5/18. Grab it at [Amazon]( [Barnes and Noble]( [Books A Million]( [Indiebound]( or [Bookshop](. Thanks! Eric This email was sent to {EMAIL} [why did I get this?](    [unsubscribe from this list](    [update subscription preferences]( Bakadesuyo · 8033 Sunset Boulevard, #1073 · Los Angeles, CA 90046 · USA