This Is The #1 Way To Detect Lies, Scientifically

Barking Up The Wrong Tree May 11th, 2022 --------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------- This Is The #1 Way To Detect Lies, Scientifically Today is day two in our 7-day social skills boot camp from my book [Plays Well With Others](. Even if you already have the book, below is a quick tip you can put to use immediately. (And if you don’t have the book, it’s available now and already an Amazon bestseller. Grab your copy [here]( So how do we deal with liars? I’d love to believe Homo Sapiens were always honest and kind but in real life (where I, unfortunately, spend most of my time) that’s just not the case. But there’s no need to put one more pin in the voodoo doll or to do a full product recall on humanity. There are ways to detect their verbal double-dealing... The mistake we usually make is looking for signs of stress to detect lies. This doesn’t work. What is effective is increasing what’s called “cognitive load.” Lying requires a surprising amount of brainpower. If we up the amount of thinking liars need to do, it can make their fibs easier to notice. How do we do that? By asking what researchers call “unanticipated questions.” From [Plays Well With Others]( If you asked an underage-looking person at a bar how old they are they’d immediately reply, “I’m twenty-one.” But instead, what if you asked them, “What’s your date of birth?” That’s an exceedingly easy question for someone telling the truth, but a liar’s likely going to have to pause to do some math. Gotcha. Research shows airport security methods usually catch less than 5 percent of lying passengers. But when screeners used unanticipated questions, that number shot up to 66 percent. Be friendly. Be polite. Maybe ask something that’s verifiable. Oh, you were at the meeting yesterday? Was Carol wearing that scarf again? Easy to answer for a truthteller but a potential mine field for a liar. And when they reply to your unanticipated question, don’t ask yourself “Is this person lying?” Ask yourself “Do they need to think hard?” This question alone improved the lie detection skills of police officers in scientific studies. That’s the tip for today. I’ll be back tomorrow with another one. The [book]( has numerous methods for detecting lies and other useful tools -- like how to deal with narcissists. And I extended the [bonus]( deadline to 5/16. Just reply to this email with proof of purchase and you literally get 25% more book. Bonuses will be sent by me to your email on 5/18. Grab it at [Amazon]( [Barnes and Noble]( [Books A Million]( [Indiebound]( or [Bookshop](. Thanks! Eric This email was sent to {EMAIL} [why did I get this?](    [unsubscribe from this list](    [update subscription preferences]( Bakadesuyo · 8033 Sunset Boulevard, #1073 · Los Angeles, CA 90046 · USA